Finding “The One”

Being in love with someone means that you feel your life is complete. Whatever could happen in the future whether it is positive or negative will not affect your joy you find in that person. When you find ‘the one’ you feel complete. You feel the desire to always make them happy and if you could do something that would bring them joy you would do it.

But what if you haven’t found the one yet? What if you just haven’t met that person yet?

There was a time where I thought I found ‘the one’. She is one of the most amazing people I have ever met and she had certain qualities that you don’t normally find in people. The most incredible thing about her was that she was such an inspiring person. And that was what drew me to her.

She wasn’t ‘the one’ though.

There was nothing wrong with her I just eventually discovered that she was not the person I want to spend the rest of my life with.

So I’m back at square one. 7 billion people approximately in this world. Let’s say 3.5 is woman. So I can cross of 1 name. Great progress!

So what’s the next step? How can I find her?

After months of trying to figure it out I came to a conclusion that will probably not satisfy you but I feel content at this point of time.

There are tons of people that I could be with but I want the perfect match. You can make any marriage work but why struggle now to make it work in 5 years or rather wait for the perfect one and deal with the things that will affect the relationship before you go into the relationship and for her to do the same?

There is also something else I would like to address. Something that I have recently discovered. Rather tiring yourself out looking for someone that inspires you, why not become the inspirational person you would like to meet?

To do that you evidently need to start doing crazy things. Things that excite you but also freak you out. Things that you will never forget. It doesn’t need to be something you aren’t ready for yet but something that will scare you at least on some level. Then one day that thing you thought you never could will be something you will laugh at because it is such an easy feat.

So start daring yourself. Do crazy things. If you’ve got bad memory then just do unforgettable things.

What crazy things have you done and what are the things you are planning to do?

I am also not a hypocrite so I will also be doing things that entice me and of course bring those stories to light.

They say you are the product of the people you spend your time with. I’m sure it will be the same with the person you love. So once you become an inspiration to others you may find ‘the one’.

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16 thoughts on “Finding “The One”

  1. Well I could give you way too much advice on this topic, but I’ll try not to, haha! My kids tell me the world has changed and dating has changed. What is it like where you live? Can you just meet a girl somewhere, such as at work or school, and ask her to go out to dinner, or do you have to use those dating apps? I met my husband at a party when I was 26. I was feeling pretty old and wondering if I would ever meet ‘the one’. I think you are on the right track, but do things that you enjoy, not just crazy things. Do things that you can see yourself doing often. And hopefully you might meet a girl who enjoys those things, too. But don’t expect a relationship to always be smooth sailing. Part of life is that people go through changes and if you are in a relationship, you sometimes have to adjust to their changes or them to yours. As long as their is mutual respect, common interests, and good communication, you can usually get past difficulties in marriage.

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    1. Thank you for your great advice! Always love to hear from you. Honestly where Im from dating apps are not very popular at all but there are those that still use it. However I would say the most common way people have met is either through school, university or even church. But othereise it would be a mutual friend or like you say a party you go to.

      Wow, 26 doesn’t seem to old for me honestly🤣I think thats a good age.

      And yes I definitely agree in the fact that I will do things I enjoy, it just may seem quite daunting at times but I would like to challenge myself in such a way that I rely on God so much that if I feel unvomfortable in any way I rather back out. I wont do anything completely stupid, maybe a little😉

      I also agree that no relationship is perfect but one can avoid silly fights through personal growth and maturity in my opinion. God bless.

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      1. I love your attitude and I trust that God will bring a wonderful woman into your life. And, you’re right, at this time 26 is not old to get married. But back then it was. LOL! 🙂

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  2. Hi, great post, and you make a lot of great points. I like watching this YouTube channel called, Apply God’s Word by Mark Ballenger. They talk a lot about singleness, couples, marriage etc. Not sure if you’ll it or agree with eveything. But I have found it to be enriching. 👍 🌹

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  3. Very insightful, Jonathan: “Why not become the inspirational person you would like to meet?” You’re so right. “The One” can’t help but notice a person who’s mature, thoughtful, and uplifting–all inspiring qualities. Praying God’s blessing on your search!

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  4. It’s said that life is what happens when we are busy making other plans. So yeah, enjoy it! Also, people usually find those people more attractive who are happy being themselves than desperately looking for attention. Who knows something might work in one’s favour?

    In between, very good post! 🙂


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